Ever wondered why you are happy when you are happy? The same way, have you given any simple thought why you are sad when you are sad?
If you would have tried, you would have come up with a series of questions for yourself, true but weird! The questions which only you have the answer.
You have to answer those questions you raised, ultimately the answer lies with in you.
But, it depends how you understood yourself and your brought up characteristics. Believe me, that’s the key! So you have to answer it correct, broadly you have the knowledge for it already. After all that’s what you learnt from life so far.
(PS. Its just my opinion. As my UH says “An opinion is an opinion. An opinion can be true or false. For you your opinion is true. From my point your opinion can be false!” )
So what I’m trying to say is, its Just my opinion. And opinion always differs. Its up to you how you are taking it up.
Back to the point. [ May be tomorrow, as I am leaving for the day :D ]
I’m back ..
It’s a big gap really. I never use to take so much time to complete my post once its started.
Here I am. Trying to explain the differences between being happy and really happy. Before that I like to tell you a incident that happened with one of my friend out here.
He got into my company same as me as a consultant. To be frank, I have never seen a person like him. He is too lazy. A person who doesn’t even throw the banana cover which he eats. He just put that beside his bed and sleep. By heart he is a good person. He is happy for what he is now. But when time passed by, the laziness made his real character worst. When everyone started pointing out his problem, he couldn’t say anything because others suffered due to his laziness.
[Obliviously, When you have such a person – who is not ready to clean the vessels properly, who is not ready to clean the apartment , who is having problem in buying things for room.. etc etc ].
The person is not having any regrets too for his activities. This makes even worst. Anyway, we slowly got used to it and we are on our way back. It couldn’t lost long. When the same characteristics continued in work too, he is not ready to improve himself. Not ready to learn.
And finally the day came. My Client don’t want him anymore. When this is communicated to my friend, he couldn’t take it anymore. He become sick and suddenly one day he started running here and there in the roads shouting “please save me! Please Save me!” . We guys don’t have any clue what to do. He seems totally collapsed and mentally upset. He asked everyone “What you did to me?”. “ Please Save me!”.
It become very difficult for us and our employer to pack him and send to his family. Some how he reached his family and under doctor observation.
There is reason for me to telling this incident and its related to our blog post theme.
If you want to be happy, You should
· Improve yourself constantly
· Always learn and gain experience
· Not dependent on others for completing the stuffs for you
· Never believe in everything.
· Etc etc
I tell all these. If you believe in the above, you are missing out some important thing. Its nothing but , “ It’s all about you!”.
You should know yourself. Your Strengths, your weakness and more importantly, “ Your Parents!”. If you know these three things you will know whether you are really happy or pretending to be happy.
If your “ parents are loving , never depends you financially, always supportive for you, always positive, have taught you all the means of survival, never let you to starve for love, never gave you up and believe in you always! “ Do you think you will be sad anymore?
Having this kind of parents are the key of your happiness. They have taught you the waysof love, survival, learning, confidence and most of all Independent of being yourself! Never dependent on anyone. Whether its objective or subjective!
What I am trying to say here is, the very basic of yourself being happy is to have this kind of loved ones. Where you can show your frustrations, in return you get just more love. The ones who never gave you up! The ones who always have the believe in you!
Being happy or sad, what you are now.. some where it ends at your parents and how they have brought you up. Brought you up and thought you to face the world.
One of my friend says “ You are never given choices..its YOU who CREATE choices in life...“
You are really happy when you have proper base, means your loved ones care for you. I know people who are being happy, say for an example my friend in this example… He was manipulated to being happy! Because his father forced him that being in “foreign” is a pride. And he believed that " Being happy is being here..!" .When his dreams shattered, He couldn't take it any more!
People are being happy with just dreams. That’s what I called just being happy.
The really happen one is when you can make any tough decisions, You can achieve any targets in your mind, You can win anyone , You will be happy always if you get your loving parents!
I know the times I have struggled a lot. I know my family situation when I was so needy. I know how my parents suffered some time during my education. But I never seen or heard from them apart from the support I got. My parents never hide anything from me, they believe that their kids should know the things what’s happening with their family and its situation. Still, my parents hid few things until they solved it. When I came to know those, really I felt how lucky I am to have such parents.
My parents made sure that their kids shouldn't spoil their dreams and future by telling their problems.
This is dedicated to my parents who is always very supportive to me. I wish everyone should get my kind of parents.
Now Just feel what is being happy and really happy!!
Please make sure to leave your comments how your parents supported you by all means for you to gain your position!
