Ever wondered why some people gets respect from others and some fails miserably though they want to be respected!
I tried to understand this and here are my findings.
Every one wants to be respected, no matter what , who he is and there is no regards / regret in that. But the question is “How he is going to earn that?”
The respect doesn’t come in a day or two. It will take months together some times in years also. To earn the respect first you respect yourself. You should have self dignity first.
What I observed is, the person who has self dignity has respect for himself.
Once you believe in yourself, once you start respecting yourself for your behaviors it is very easy to get the respect from others.
But the self respect doesn’t come so easy. You know about yourself. You know what you are good at and what you are not.
You know your intentions behind on your every action. You may pretend good , but that wont last for long. For the ones who pretend to be good, once your intentions are explored, it will get worst. Even if you really changed it wont help. People won’t believe you anymore.
Some people think that others are fools, and its easy to get the respect by pretending good. But how far it will work? Its all dependents upon your intentions, how you going to deal that. For the good way or the other
I like to share by understandings when I studied two persons of the above said category each.
Person 1 : I like to name this person as one as he got much respect and I like him a lot too.
Person 2 : This person is of the other category and especially he pretends to be good.
Here are the some interesting things I found among them, which helped me to come to this conclusion.
1.
Person 1 is always open and doesn’t hide about himself. May be person 1 is not disclosing all about him but at least he will make sure that the circle around him knows the essentials.
Person 2 is too closed, and I’m not saying its bad. He is trying to hide everything because he is not ready to trust anyone or scared of everyone. This itself gives me a negative feedback.
2.
Person 1 speaks to your face. Whether its correct or wrong, he will point out immediately and he make sure that he will point out on your presence. Also when he makes some mistake, doesn’t matter the age difference He apologizes immediately. Obviously, this has lead some serious arguments between us in the initial days.
Person 2 is always good to me in the initial days , since he wont comment anything in front of me. Also he never said anything for the mistakes I make. The idea about the person was not the same when I came to know that he is commenting about me to others on my absence. Also he points out the mistakes I make when I am not around and makes a fool of me. Very soon he created a villan image about myself among others. But this kind of things wont last when everyone now knew about him.
3.
Person 1 does his duties with perfection. He also fulfills his responsibility not only related to his family , he is also much dedicated in his work environment.As per me the
person 2 doesn't do his duty with perfection. He does everything for name sake , and also he utilize every opportunity to skip his duty. Never bothers about others , but he wants others to do the work though he is supposed to join.
4.
Person 1 is a good in spending. He doesn’t spend lavish but he knew where to spend and does it correctly. Also he makes sure that if he is supposed to pay someone / if he owing any money from others, he returns with respect.
Person 2 is a big kanjus where he think for eating food for himself. And no comment about other things, its worse.
Somehow .. The person 2 become an allergy to me by his activities. He never listened to others points and he never thinks this boy also got his place. I do want to share this somewhere.. and I did it in my blog itself.
There are so many sites that provides you with your characterists when you give correct answers. But to be simple, won't the below ones just give you a hint?
HOW TO BE RESPECTFUL
1. Treat other people the way you want to be treated.
2. Be courteous and polite.
3. Listen to what other people have to say.
4. Don't insult people, or make fun of them, or call them names.
5. Don't bully or pick on others. .
6. Don't judge people before you get to know them!
The love is same after seeing so many responses!
